For the first several years of single parenthood, I constantly felt overwhelmed. Trying to be the sole caregiver for my little ones, trying to run a business and support us, and managing my overwhelming emotions and fear regarding my failed marriage. And with all this, I often felt the need for more hours in the day or better yet to be able to clone myself to get more done. Needless to say, neither of those things happened.
Fast forward a few years and now I thrive on our busy schedule. The kids are older and more involved in things, we’ve added the twins and their busyness, I still work constantly to support us and I’m now spreading my wings in a couple of different avenues to earn more money. And to make it even better, I’ve found the answers to my previous desires: more hours in the day and cloning myself.
First, I’ve found a couple of ways to give me more hours in the day:
- Making healthy choices – I start every morning with a pretty nasty shot of fresh squeezed lemon juice, a teaspoon of local honey and a couple of teaspoons of apple cider vinegar all mixed with water. Not only is this concoction super charged healthy, but more importantly it super boosts my energy. I am more productive and more active throughout the day.
- Make a list – I have a running to do list, so when I’m feeling overwhelmed or at a loss for what to do next, I can simply check the list and it feels great to actually mark something off. (I spend a few minutes in the morning and evening reviewing the list and adding or removing things as needed.)
- Waking up earlier – I’ve always been a night owl, but either because of the healthier choices or maybe just aging I’m naturally waking up a couple of hours before the sun. In the past, I would have turned over and gone back to sleep, but now I’m up and getting started on my day.
I didn’t force these changes, I couldn’t have. I’ve read for years about moms who got up before the sun, and even setting an alarm, I just couldn’t do it. I had to wait for my body to be ready, for the motivation to be there…and it certainly hasn’t happened over night. But I’ve got to tell you, once I learned to embrace the changes with a positive attitude the difference in my life has been phenomenal.
Second, cloning myself. No, I did not go to some top secret lab and let me take my DNA and then synthetically create a new me, loading it with my personality and memories. Now, that I type that out, it’s actually more scary then desirable! What I did do, is learn to live in the moment. For years, I was always watching and waiting for the next thing whether it was a trip, an event or even a paycheck. Now, I realize that my time with my kids is flying by and if I spend all my time focusing on what’s going to happen in the future, I miss the present. I miss the special things happening now, I miss the memories and the milestones, I miss the lessons and the playtime. So rather than cloning myself I now live in the here and now, right here, right now! So I focus on:
- Playtime – my kids need me, not stuff. The notice when I am here in front of my computer to the exclusion of all else, so I have to make a conscious effort every day to have playtime. It’s good for me and GREAT for them.
- Being productive – when I sit down to work, I need to work, not lose hours browsing the internet. This is where my list comes in, it really helps me keep focused on what needs to be done.
- Prioritize – let’s face it, we all have ‘to dos’ that are more wants than needs and sometimes, they need to take a back burner. Keeping things in perspective is key to fitting it all in.
I encourage you to find more hours in your day or at least be open to the possibility and while you are at it, make sure you are living in the moment! I can’t tell you how much these two things have changed my life!