This is not my picture and I don't know who to credit it to, but it spoke to me on this subject.

Ok, this is a HOT topic so let me start this post with some disclaimers . . .

1. This is MY OPINION — not affiliated with anyone, not advertising for anyone.
2. I am PRO CHOICE and therefore I am PRO LIFE (I’ll explain this later.)
3. I am not a medical professional and I did not go read a bunch of other people’s opinions to base mine on, this is what resonates in my heart.
4. I am not here to judge anyone but of course, I hope to sway others who may be facing such a hard choice.

Every woman has choices, lots of choices. And one of the most important choices is who and when she gives herself away (has sex.) The fact of the matter is millions and millions, maybe even billions, of people have sex every single day, possibly every single hour. God created sex to be pleasurable AND to pro-create.  All you have to do is read Song of Solomon or Song of Sons depending on what your Bible calls it and you will know this. (Now if you don’t believe in the Bible, that’s a whole other matter that I am not getting into today.)

Back to my point, millions or billions of people are having sex at any given time, and a pregnancy is not guaranteed.  It is not by chance either.  Just ask those people who have tried literally for YEARS to have a baby, doing everything humanly possible with no results.  Then one day, viola, pregnancy.  Know what this tells me . . . it was pre-ordained.  God knew when, where and who were to become pregnant.  He KNOWS every single one of his children and calls them by name before our parents even know our sex.

I am not going to argue when life begins.  I am not a scientist, but all you have to do is look at early sonograms and you will see facial features, heartbeats and can even get responses to sound or movement.  I believe life begins at inception.

So keeping this short and sweet. A woman chooses to have sex (or not in the horrible incidents of rape,) God has pre-ordained when of these physical encounters will produce one of His children, and within days that baby begins to become a recognizable BABY. Abortion kills a child, there is no subtle way to put it. 

Now we come to the choices and I will completely agree, that the thought of abortion would cross my mind in certain circumstances, anyone who tells you it doesn’t or won’t is lying.

First scenario:

I grew up in a SUPER strict, conservative home. If I had made the CHOICE to have sex back then and subsequently had gotten pregnant, you bet your bottom dollar, abortion would have been the VERY FIRST thing that came to my mind.  Now I don’t know that I would have followed through because my thoughts of killing children haven’t changed so much, but I would have done just about anything before facing my parents with this complete failure on my part . . . Now here’s the moral to that story.  This does not speak to a failure on God’s part or my baby’s part.  It speaks to my failures and those of my parents (sorry, mom and dad, I love you, but….) I would have made the choice to break God’s commandment to have sex outside the confines of marriage, and not being able to face my parents, well that speaks volumes doesn’t it?  Not just about how my family operated but how Christians continue to operate with our judgments and superior attitudes.  Hey, I’m a Christian and I get it all the time, think of how the non-Christians see us.  Just think…

Second scenario:

After my daughter was born, I was THRILLED, which was big, because I was the girl that for the first almost 30 years of my life said I would not marry or have bio kids.  When we found out 4 months later that I was pregnant again, I was THRILLED, but I knew that was it for me.  I think it was my first doctor’s appointment for my second pregnancy that I said, “can you tie my tubes when this one is born?”  I have never regretted that decision. I did not and do not want to have any more bio babies.  My two are FABULOUS and the lights of my life, but they were all the “baby” I was made to handle. So fast forward a few years, and my friends and family members who started have babies before me…started having more babies.  I was happy for them but flabbergasted.  I mean, their kids were practically grown, out of diapers, out of potty training, out of “mommy, mommy” constantly (all that I was still going through) and here they were, starting all over.  I mean, they were getting their lives back, their freedom back, their sleep back and they were CHOOSING to do it again.

Absolutely CRAZY in my book! I know that sounds judgmental and maybe it is a little bit, but really it just really wasn’t for me and I knew it.  I LOVE being a mom, and I LOVE my munchkins, but the thought of having to do babies again would scare the be-jeezus out of me.  BUT if I were to have gotten or get pregnant since that time, the thought of abortion would have gone through my head.  It would obviously have been for a completely different reason.  I am at a totally different place in life. Have nothing to be ashamed of, but whoa, that thought is one of the scariest I can imagine.

Third scenario:

What is your scenario? Be honest.  Even the healthiest, wholest person I know has a scenario where the thought would cross their mind.  Rape, birth defects, age, money, single parenthood?  All of these things factor into a woman’s choice…

So now instead of talking about government and politicians, maybe we should focus on 1) THE CHOICE, that’s where it begins, right? and 2) the hard life factors that make the thought of having a baby so hard to stomach for so many whatever their life circumstances.  Let’s stop judging and start surrounding girls, teens, women with love, support and knowledge.  In the end, it doesn’t matter one bit what the government does, the bottom line is what that one woman’s CHOICE is…every single time.  And that ONE WOMAN has to live with the consequences for the REST of her life.